Comments on: Types of Victim Blaming http://whenlovehurts.ca/2008/02/27/types-of-victim-blaming/ Fri, 11 Nov 2011 01:12:14 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 By: Naomi Rempel http://whenlovehurts.ca/2008/02/27/types-of-victim-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Naomi Rempel Mon, 17 Mar 2008 20:54:04 +0000 http://whenlovehurts.ca/2008/02/27/types-of-victim-blaming/#comment-11 I have experienced so much of this subtle and not so subtle victim blaming. Why is the victim blamed and not the abuser? That really bothers me. I have experienced so much of this subtle and not so subtle victim blaming. Why is the victim blamed and not the abuser? That really bothers me.

]]> By: GL http://whenlovehurts.ca/2008/02/27/types-of-victim-blaming/comment-page-1/#comment-8 GL Sun, 02 Mar 2008 02:53:12 +0000 http://whenlovehurts.ca/2008/02/27/types-of-victim-blaming/#comment-8 I am in a support group that is using When Love Hurts as our manual. There are a dozen women in our group. None of them have been married less than 15 years. I look around the group. We are all intelligent, caring women. We just did not understand what we were dealing with. Many of us have never been hit, so we didn't equate the term "abuse" with what we were suffering. But we were suffering. We have been mentally, spiritually, emotionally, relationally, financially, and sexually abused. We have been in a car with a man who "drove angry" and scared the wits out of us. I've learned that that is physical abuse. We may have been terrified, but we were not punched. So we didn't realize it was abuse. Karen and Jill, thank you for writing a clear, easy-to-understand and compelling book. Knowledge is the beginning of freedom. Life is not turning out the way I dreamed as a girl - but it is still good. I am becoming a formidable woman: a force to be reckoned with. And I am okay with that. I am in a support group that is using When Love Hurts as our manual. There are a dozen women in our group. None of them have been married less than 15 years. I look around the group. We are all intelligent, caring women. We just did not understand what we were dealing with. Many of us have never been hit, so we didn’t equate the term “abuse” with what we were suffering. But we were suffering. We have been mentally, spiritually, emotionally, relationally, financially, and sexually abused. We have been in a car with a man who “drove angry” and scared the wits out of us. I’ve learned that that is physical abuse. We may have been terrified, but we were not punched. So we didn’t realize it was abuse.

Karen and Jill, thank you for writing a clear, easy-to-understand and compelling book. Knowledge is the beginning of freedom. Life is not turning out the way I dreamed as a girl – but it is still good.

I am becoming a formidable woman: a force to be reckoned with. And I am okay with that.

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